Premarital Counseling in Scottsdale and Phoenix
You said YES! Congratulations! You have decided to spend your life with that special person. An essential, and often overlooked, part of wedding planning also includes premarital counseling. This can help you avoid common pitfalls in marriages that develop over time and start marriage off right (and skillfully). Premarital counseling in Scottsdale, AZ can help!
Common focuses of premarital counseling include learning how to communicate kindly, how to resolve conflicts skillfully, how to be on the same page on important topics such as finances, intimacy, parenting, etc. Often, premarital counseling is more educational, focused on learning and practicing skills, rather than fixing problems that have developed over time. However, if there are some issues present, these can also be brought up.
Couples often engage in premarital counseling to avoid developing unhelpful relationship habits that form over time and cause problems in marriages. On average, couples wait six years before going to couples counseling. By this time, these habits have already rooted themselves in the marriage and established a pattern of unhelpful habits. Prevention is always better than treatment!
Common focuses of premarital counseling
This is one of the most important skills in relationships! According to research by leading relationship scientists, Drs. John and Julie Gottman, 69% of conflicts in relationships are unsolvable. So it is essential to have skills to talk about issues that may cause conflict in a way that builds connection and understanding.
Improving Connection and Intimacy
Therapy can help you build intimacy by increasing closeness and connection. Learning about each others internal worlds develops understanding and closeness.
Boundaries are important in relationships. It is important to establish boundaries and expectations early in a relationship. However, these conversations may be difficult and often do not happen before a boundary is crossed.
Everyone brings “baggage” into a relationship. Premarital counseling can help you explore your baggage and evaluate how it impacts your relationship. This can help you build a stronger connection and a deeper understanding of your partner.